Radically Inclusive Community Building
& Liberated Relationships
Tending & nurturing community.
Creating radically inclusive & safe-to-be-brave spaces.
Facilitating liberation & transformative justice in relationships.
This is our work, together.
Hi, I’m April Cheri. I build relationships and communities – both online and in-person.
I create and nurture radically inclusive spaces for transformation to take place in individuals and collectives. Whether I am co-chairing a nonprofit board, co-leading a behavioral health clinic, co-producing sex positive events, or facilitating liberation and transformative justice in relationships, my mission is to create and nurture cultures of belonging where everyone is welcome and cared for.
I am doing this work because I don’t fit in a culture that demands repression of self and oppression of others to belong, or a culture that thrives on individualism and exclusion. I desire to find the alternative to making exchanges for belonging and care. I believe radical inclusion, liberated relationships, and transformative justice are the answer.
There is a beautiful saying among the Xhosa tribe in Africa, Ubuntu, that says, “I am, because we are.” Our sense of self is directly related to the depth of our being known, being an integral part of the whole. This philosophy guides my work and my art.
I believe radical inclusion, liberated relationships, and transformative justice are paths to positive change between individuals and collectives.
Radical inclusion is choosing to evolve beyond the outdated, fear-based fight and protect instinct of our primitive brain in relationship to other humans. Radical inclusion is when we welcome and respect the stranger, no matter how they are different from us. When we are radically inclusive, there is no “other.”
Liberated relationships are a new system of equality that start at the interpersonal level. Liberated relationships are free of the oppressive ways that we attempt to coerce and control one another to get our needs and desires met. Liberated relationships thrive on connection without the abuse and toxic behaviors that often poison our relating.
Transformative justice acknowledges the reality of harm, looks for ways to address/interupt harm, and transforms the root causes of violence in our relationships. In transformative justice “no one is an enemy; instead, everyone needs to be involved in a voluntary, safe, constructive, and critical dialogue about accountability, responsibility, and the initiative to heal.” (Anthony Nocella)
Radical inclusion, liberated relationship, and transformative justice all begin with the self and radiate out to our circles of community, from family and friends to acquaintances and neighbors to cities and nations.
Radical inclusion, liberated relationships, and transformative justice are not light and fluffy and do not always feel safe, although they do take safe-to-be-brave spaces in order to be cultivated. They call for the vulnerability of facing ourselves in a mirror. They demand looking into the shadows of this being human and pulling out the pieces of ourselves that were dismembered and thrown away for the sake of being included by a culture based on conformity. From there we hold space for others to do the same.
These practices require radical transformation. It requires transformation in order to accept the “other” in ourselves and the “other” in people who are very different from us. It requires transformation to continue relating with people who hurt and harm us. This work calls us to dig into our judgments and the ways we are conditioned to believe that repressing ourselves and oppressing others are the only ways to relate. And these practices facilitate transformation because people become their best and truest selves when they accept all of themselves and feel a sense of belonging.
In these pages you will find ways to work with me as a consultant in facilitating community and transforming relationships, participate in my research for a book, learn about radically inclusive practices and ways to tend relationships with intention, and follow along with my creative experiment in gift economy.
I hope you’ll find a way to connect with me.
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“We are all longing to go home to some place we have never been – a place half-remembered and half-envisioned we can only catch glimpses of from time to time. Community. Somewhere, there are people to whom we can speak with passion without having the words catch in our throats. Somewhere a circle of hands will open to receive us, eyes will light up as we enter, voices will celebrate with us whenever we come into our own power. Community means strength that joins our strength to do the work that needs to be done. Arms to hold us when we falter. A Circle of healing. A circle of friends. Someplace where we can be free.” Starhawk